Westerly, Rhode Island Event Raises Awareness of Elder Abuse

This past Saturday, June 15, was World Elder Abuse Awareness Day. This observation was launched by the International Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse and the World Health Organization in order to provide communities around the globe with an opportunity to raise awareness about the abuse and neglect of seniors.

On Friday, June 14 in Westerly, Rhode Island, a number of advocates and organizations came together to make their voices heard.

“Sadly, millions of seniors have fallen victim to some sort of elder abuse, neglect or financial exploitation,” said Attorney RJ Connelly III, Certified Elder Law Attorney. “These crimes and activities target some of the most vulnerable individuals in our society, yet they are woefully under-reported.”

Elder abuse is defined as "a single or repeated act, or lack of appropriate action, occurring within any relationship where there is an expectation of trust, which causes harm or distress to an older person. This type of violence constitutes a violation of human rights and includes physical, sexual, psychological, and emotional abuse; financial and material abuse; abandonment; neglect; and serious loss of dignity and respect."

The numbers across the globe are staggering. A 2017 study of 28 countries found that nearly 16 percent of people aged 60 or above had been subjected to some sort of abuse. Those numbers are high enough, however it is likely that the real numbers are much higher.

“There are a number of reasons why the actual numbers are hard to obtain,” stated Connelly.

“We know that our seniors are afraid to report the abuse because those perpetrating the act may be family or friends. They are also afraid that by reporting such abuse and exploitation, it may be perceived by outsiders that they are unable to take care of themselves and will result in institutional placement."

Elder abuse does not exist in a vacuum as a number of risk factors are present that should

alert providers and caretakers that an elder could be exploited. Those with histories of mental illness or addiction disorders are certainly at a high risk of being the victim of abuse. If seniors with these issues live with a caretaker who also suffers from mental health disorders or substance abuse, this raises the risk that they will be abused exponentially. In such situations, both men and women run the same risk of abuse.

Another risk factor is also present in shared living situations. If the caretaker is dependent

upon the senior financially, the risk of abuse rises again. For the potential abuser, the senior represents a 'gravy train' that they will ride for as long as they can. They have free housing, access to funds so they can buy drugs or alcohol, food and even gas and cigarette money. To keep this income stream protected, the abuser will keep the senior isolated.

This social isolation allows abuse to continue unchecked. Such activity results in a lack of social support for both the caregiver and the senior leading to a continued loss of mental and physical capacity and it may not be discovered until it is too late - for both.

“A senior who experiences abuse at the hands of a trusted caregiver will usually recede further into isolation as a result of the dynamics that present themselves in the circle of abusive relationships,” stated Connelly.

Because they feel shame, they begin to withdrawal from family, friends and all forms of social activity. And in situations where a senior was raised in a home where abuse was normalized, they will remain quiet because that is what they were taught to do.

Sadly, change is more frightening to a senior than the abuse itself.

There are also socio-cultural factors associated with elder abuse such as stereotypes of seniors being frail, weak and dependent making them the target of those looking to perpetrate a scam or engage in abuse. In essence, they are bombarded from all fronts.

So we have documents the high rates of abuse globally, now the question is, just how are we doing when it comes to elder abuse here in Southern New England? Let's find out.

In December of 2018, GoLocalProv reported on a study by WalletHub which found that Rhode Island ranked “poorly” for the highest number per capita of elder abuse, gross neglect and exploitative complaints, coming in at number 47, just 4 spots from the bottom of the list of states (including the District of Columbia). By contrast, just over the border in Massachusetts, they were ranked as the best in the country for laws and infrastructure to protect their elderly population.

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No senior should live in fear af abuse.

But here’s the rub, the ranking by Rhode Island is not for the lack of state spending. According to the same study, Rhode Island is second in the country in the money it spends in an effort to stem such abuse.

When we look at the money spent in the Ocean State versus the complaints being made, we need to question about the efficacy of these expenditures when it appears they are not getting the results expected for the high costs involved. Yet, in speaking with a local politician, he stated that we may need to look at this another way, perhaps the spending is increasing the awareness of the problem and resulting in more reports, hence the low ranking.

Could that be true or a political spin? Hard to say given what we know about seniors and speaking up about abuse, but what we do appear to know is that once a complaint is made, the abuser is rarely held to account.

In a report done by a group of Brown University students, they found that 87 percent of those investigated and charged with elder abuse offenses in the State of Rhode Island between the years of 2000 and 2017 were not incarcerated for their crimes. And evidence does exist that those who abuse elders are at high risk to re-offend. And if they do, would the victims report it again?

It's doubtful.

Let's take a look at a few reportd cases of elder abuse and exploitation here in Rhode Island to get a flavor of what acts are reported.

  • Seventy-eight-year-old Mary Lamar Grancher lived in fear of her son Garry Lamar, 47. He was prone to violent rages — often spitting in his mother’s face, grabbing her throat, shoving her around and calling her crude names, according to police reports. After allowing Lamar to live in her North Kingstown home for four years without paying rent, Grancher kicked her son out. But Lamar returned daily, banging on her door and begging for money. “I would like to see you dead,” he told her. He repeatedly stole her cat, Melo, which he threatened to kill unless she paid him hundreds of dollars in ransom. As a neighbor testified, Mary would often “cry and cave in.” By July 2007, Lamar had forced his mother to hand over more than $15,000. “I felt like I had to because he is my son,” a trembling Grancher explained to officers. “I don’t want him back in the house.”

  • Rita Armaganian, a Warwick resident, went to visit her 80-year-old next-door neighbor, Hilda Bassett. Entering the apartment, Rita noticed a small spot of blood on Hilda’s cheek and a large bruise. Her glasses lay broken. Hilda insisted that she had fallen in the bathroom. Rita pressed her further. Hilda admitted that her daughter, Donna Bassett, had slapped her in the face. Though “nervous and shaken,” Hilda insisted that it was “no big deal” and pleaded with Rita not to call 911. Rita took Hilda to the hospital and convinced her to provide a written statement. Donna was charged with assault on a person over 60, and a no-contact order was issued. But three weeks later, the no-contact order was lifted and, eventually, prosecutors dismissed the case “in the interests of justice,” court records show.

  • As Maria Almeida headed into her 70s, she’d come to depend on her upstairs neighbors, Jaime and Fernanda Resende. “We do everything for her,” Jaime Resende said, according to court records. “She had nobody to do what I did for her.” Resende helped Almeida fix up her apartment in Warren. He brought her to the grocery store, doctors’ appointments, and to the bank. His wife rubbed her feet and washed her clothes. A native of Portugal, Almeida knew little English. Her late husband had left her close to $3 million. But, as Almeida later told investigators, she did not understand how to read a bank statement. Jaime Resende admitted to police that he had often filled in and cashed blank checks that Almeida had signed, depositing them into his bank account. But he insisted that it was not for his benefit, but to make purchases for Almeida. Much of the money, however, found its way into the couple’s pockets. In October 2008 alone, they received $28,000 from Almeida. “I never take advantage,” Jaime Resende later testified. “She gave me the money because she wants me to have the money ... to help us. ... I know she has the money; I know she never use the money.” From the middle of 2007 to the end of 2009, the couple received a total of $360,000 from Almeida. Their neighbor had funded a refurnishing of their home, paid off Jaime Resende’s $40,000 credit-card debt, bought the couple a new car, and sent them on a trip to Portugal.

“In the case of Mrs. Almeida, we can see how easy it is for a senior to be exploited. She was from Portugal, dependent upon neighbors and had no one to monitor her accounts,” said Connelly. “And we see the typical responses from the perpetrators, portraying themselves in an altruistic light, making rationalizations for their behaviors. There are numerous red flags in that case.”

But there is good news, a number of senior advocates and organizations that provide services to seniors are raising awareness about this problem -- and are strongly committed to seeing things change.

The event co-sponsored by Connelly Law Offices on June 14 is proof that many good people are coming together to address the issue of elder abuse. In an effort to bring this issue to light, PACE of Rhode Island, the Adult Day Center of Westerly, the Pawcatuck Neighborhood Center, Stone Ridge Senior Living Community, Stonington Arms/EHDOC, the Stonington Housing Authority (Edyhte K. Richmond), the Town of Stonington Commission on Aging, Connelly Law Offices and the Westerly Library and Wilcox Park joined forces to send a message that seniors must be protected and advocated for.

As part of the event, a walk took place in Wilcox Park followed by our presentation on Seniors Bullying Seniors in community living programs (see an earlier blog on this subject). As the presenter of this workshop, those in attendance were among the most responsive and enthusiastic group we have presented to. From senior advocates to residents, nearly everyone shared stories about what they either witnessed or were subjected to by other seniors.

Discussion occurred around the issue of Bullying, how to empower those who may be targets of such behaviors and the importance of reporting incidents of bullying. All in attendance agreed that this is a problem that is escalating in senior social and living settings and must be addressed now.

There must be a zero tolerance policy for bullying in nursing, assisted living and senior centers. Recognizing, understanding and correcting this behavior is essential if we are to provide a safe and pleasant living environment for our seniors.

Whether it's bullying, verbal abuse or financial exploitation, our seniors must be protected and supported. If we do not correct this problem today, it will be us on the receiving end of abuse tomorrow.

Attorney Connelly practices in the area of elder law. This area of law involves Medicaid planning and asset protection advice for those individuals entering nursing homes, planning for the possibility of disability through the use of powers of attorney for the both health care and finances, guardianship, estate planning, probate and estate administration, preparation of wills, living trusts and special or supplemental needs trusts. He represents clients primarily in the states of Rhode Island, Connecticut and the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. He was certified as an Elder Law Attorney (CELA) by the National Elder Law Foundation (NELF) in 2008. Attorney Connelly is licensed to practice before the Rhode Island, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Federal Bars.

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